Once kids reach a certain age, it’s fine to send them off into public loos by themselves – but what about that awkward stage where they’re not toddlers any more but still need chaperoning?
A Mumsnet user had this exact scenario play out recently, when her “DH” (that’s Darling Husband, in Mumsnet-ese) took their four-year-old daughter out for the day.
User AdaHopper wrote: “Help dh and I with a disagreement please.
“When dd [darling daughter] needs the loo in a public place, he takes her to the ladies’ loos. I told him that women don’t like that and he should take her to the men’s loo. Aibu [am I being unreasonable] or is he?”
The innocent question sparked a wave of conversation, with fierce debate on both sides.
Some spoke out passionately against her husband’s action saying that men should not be in the ladies’ loos for any reason.
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But others reckoned a ladies’ bathroom was a much more appropriate place for a young girl to use the toilet.
One user replied: “He is. I’ve never seen a man do this before… ever.”
And another wrote: “He is out of order… At four she is going to have to go in the men’s. Best thing is to find a nicer one?”
However, not everyone was on the mum’s side, with some taking the view that overall it’s better for a four-year-old girl to be in the ladies’ than the gents.
One person wrote: “I understand the conflict, but I would rather a father in the ladies – individual cubicles – than a four year old girl being taken into the gents with no idea what she might see.”
Another commented: “Definitely prefer a young girl in the ladies than going into the men’s with open urinals.”
The initial question now has nearly 500 responses from parents wading in with their thoughts on the matter.